This is 2020 and the ladies would like to place a question on the table for the men. Can a woman be whorish without being a whore? In other words, can we have more than one lover without negative kickback?
We all know there are double standards when it comes to men versus women in sex. For example, a man can have multiple bed partners and he is “the man.” However, a woman can have multiple bed partners and she’s a freak, a whore and other unmentionable names. Where is our sexual freedom? As always, let me break it down.
Every person has a different sexual quality and vibe about themselves. Sometimes a woman just wants a taste of a different brotha’s sexual essence. I once saw a guy who was well-endowed without it being too much and painful, yet he still knew how to make the bed rock. There was another guy I once saw that gave THE BEST oral sex ever! I don’t know how he did it, but every single time that brotha gifted me with oral sex, I squirted. Ladies give this man a standing ovation and an award! He truly deserves it. Then there was a brotha that made our moments together seem spiritual. The beyond the clouds, Venus and the Milky Way type sex. I think one time we even had to wear spacesuits the sex was so out of this world. There was the brotha that wanted to make sure I got mine before he got his. Another brotha who was so sensual I would damn near cum before he even entered me. There is nothing for me to be ashamed of, I have had an amazing sex life. I thank every lover who has contributed to my sexcapades. My past lovers have been great. We have had some exhilarating sex play. Hell, how many of you can eat a woman out until she fucking squirts like a fountain? I didn’t think so.
But what if I am unable to find all that which I described above, in one man? Or what if any other woman is unable to find all her little heart and pussy desires in one lover? If a woman can’t find all of what she desires and needs in one man, is she free without judgment to have a reverse harem. (A reverse harem is one woman with three or more male love interests. This word was created in the 1970s in romance novels but is commonly used today in Japanese anime.)
I get it. Most men cannot handle knowing a woman he is engaging with sexually is sexing another brotha. A man once told me, “I don’t want to know some other man is jumping up and down on my woman.” When he said it, I first pictured a trampoline, but I understood what he was saying. However, we’re all adults and women should not stifle their sexual needs because of an insecure man. Why should we give up our pleasures to protect your ego? When do we get to expand our sexual horizons and spread our sexual wings and fly into sexual bliss?
I am not talking about being in a one-on-one relationship, (I’ll speak on the polygamous lifestyle in another post in the future.) I’m talking strictly of freely being able to sex more than one man and not looked down upon like we’re the town tramp. Of course, in all of this, there is communication, honesty, and safety. Spreading sexually transmitted diseases is played out, playa. I am regularly tested for everything. Recently, my doctor tested me for everything, including a pregnancy test. (My tubes have been tied since 2007) I love being clean. So, can a woman do a reverse cowboy with her reverse harem? This is 2020, a new year, a new decade and a new frame of mind when it comes to sexual freedom for women, right? I would love to hear from male readers. Hit me up, fellas! We’re listening.
Click on the link to read an article from 2017 in the HuffPost, “Shedding light on the Myths About Women Who have a Lot of Sex.”